Does anyone “get” the reference in this post title? Who remembers the Tom Hanks-Jackie Gleason movie Nothing in Common, let alone the Thompson Twins song that ran over the end credits of said film? I remember really liking the movie, although I also remember it being a critical failure, despite the fact that Tom Hanks is brilliant in it. This was before Tom Hanks had won any Oscars, so to say Tom Hanks was brilliant in anything back then should be considered retroactively prescient and hipster-ish. (“He was all right in Cast Away, but I preferred him in Bosom Buddies.”) The Thompson Twins song is very Thompson Twins-y. Here’s a link for your edification and bemusement.
This is a convoluted introduction into today’s question designed to make you fall in love with me: Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.
Since these questions were written for people getting to know one another, I should answer as though I were talking about what I have in common with you, gentle reader, as opposed to what I have in common with my actual life partner (who’s already fallen in love with me). This poses somewhat of a problem because I can’t be sure who’s reading this blog on any given day. Some of you may be complete strangers visiting my blog for the very first time. (Question for you first-timers: Are you falling in love yet? Wait, don’t answer that.) On the other hand, what do you care what my husband and I have in common?
Here are three things Sugar Daddy and I appeared to have in common when we first met:
1. We were both Mormons.
2. We were friends with some of the same people.
3. We both played the piano.
I suppose we were also around the same height, but I wasn’t particularly aware of that, since all I noticed was that he was shorter than I was, and I was afraid that would make dating him awkward. In truth, he is only about an inch shorter than I am, when we’re both in our bare feet. (Or stockinged feet, if you want to keep it G-rated for the kids.) Of course, back then I saw him mostly at church, where I usually wore heels, which made me a few inches taller than he was. I had much more anxiety about this at the time than seems reasonable, in retrospect. But this story is boring.
Now, of course, my husband and I have lots of things in common. Kids, for example. That’s a pretty big one. We also enjoy spending obscene amounts of money eating out at restaurants. Those two things are pretty much the basis of our relationship. Just kidding. But really, it’s not a bad beginning.
So let’s move on to you, gentle readers. I know that many of you are mothers. We have that in common. Some of you are Mormons. We have that in common. Some of you are writers. We have that in common too. More specifically, most of you have blogs. Yet another thing that we have in common.
Let me tell you some other fun facts about myself and among these things, see if there are three you have in common with me.
* I hate olives.
* I love peanut butter.
* I have excellent blood pressure.
* I have Restless Leg Syndrome.
* Being outside at night kind of gives me the creeps.
* I have a low tolerance, physically, for sunlight, despite the fact that I find sunlight very cheering emotionally.
* I read a lot of books.
* Reality TV repulses me.
* I really don’t care how my home is decorated. It’s possibly because I have no taste.
* I am an alto, but I can also sing tenor sometimes, provided it doesn’t go below the E below middle C.
* I have a B.A. in English.
* I don’t have a Pinterest account.
* I have an irrational fear of Cheerios.
* I also have an irrational fear of buttons. I just barely tolerate them on clothes–one has to be practical, after all–but buttons just loose, by themselves? I have a horror of them. The smaller the button, the more horrifying it is to me. Truth be told, I’m not crazy about the word button. Too triggering.
* I prefer games of chance to games of strategy.
* I have Rick Astley on my iPod. In related news, I am not easily embarrassed.
* I love eating, but hate cooking.
* I didn’t think Marilynne Robinson’s Gilead was really such an amazing book. I thought it was a beautifully written, okay book. I kind of feel like this makes me morally deficient in some way.
* As a teenager, I had a huge crush on Sam Harris, the grand champion male vocalist of the first season of Star Search. I guess every girl has to fall in love with a gay man at least once in her life.
* When I was in the fourth grade, I was the best tetherball player at my elementary school. That was the last time I was ever the best at anything.
* I hate running.
* I love dancing, although my ability in this area is best described as “relatively competent.” But everything is relative, isn’t it?
* I have never been to Mexico.
* Part of me would like to go to Europe someday, but another part of me is afraid of feeling like an ugly American. I felt like a very ugly American when I went to Japan. I can’t say I was super comfortable during my brief stay in Canada, either. I’m pretty sensitive about my American-ness.
* But I actually really like being American, so screw all those other countries. Just kidding. (Maybe.)
* I’m a night person. I would sleep until 1 p.m. if people didn’t wake me up. But I don’t like sleeping until 1 p.m. because it makes me feel guilty. Therefore, when I sleep in, I try to be sure to get out of bed before 10 a.m. Or at least before 10:30. Or 11.
* Wind gives me a headache.
* I am allergic to bee venom, but I don’t remember what kind. I’ve only been stung once. I don’t have any other allergies.
* I have hypothyroidism.
* I’ve never had a broken bone.
* I can’t whistle.
* I can’t drive a stick shift.
* I find recycling a pain in the neck, and sometimes I feel like Mother Earth can just kiss my big toe.
This post is now long enough that I think it’s time to stop. Gentle readers, what do we have in common?